Professional Care Horsemanship
Trainer of Young Horses: Training Should Never Be an Assault
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As a horseperson, I know all too well the sensation of time and place melting away the moment I drive up the gravel road headed for the stable. I frequently find myself losing thoughts and tensions that have built up throughout the day when I'm at the stable. And how I always emerge as a cheerier version of myself after leaving.
I have often pondered how wonderful it is that my horse can do this for me. Remove negative thoughts, alleviate the stress from my body, and ground me in the present. But just as frequently, I've thought about what this means for my horse and her experience of my company. For where do the tensions, the stress, and fleeting thoughts go when they leave me? Does my horse become some sort of dustbin, merely taking on my emotional rubbish?
I can clearly notice a difference in my horse's mood, her willingness to work, and energy when I am happy compared to when I'm having a down day. I can't always be cheerful, but I actually make an effort to be a positive and open person when I'm with her. Just as I do when I'm with friends and family. For who really wants to be with someone who merely dumps their problems and then drives away?
That being said, I'm just a human. Recently, I went through a busy period, and although it was in a good way, things had piled up and I had a bit of a hard knot in my stomach that wouldn't quite release.
One day when I was at the stable, I had a bit of a special experience. My horse usually always comes to greet me when I approach the paddock. But this day was different. She wasn't far from the fence but didn't come to greet me. When I walked up to her, she looked away. She seemed far from interested in accompanying me or even being with me at all.
That particular day I did something different because of her behavior. I positioned myself a bit in front of her, gazing in the same direction as her. I decided that I would just stand there and see what happened. She could choose whether she wanted to stay or go. I took a deep breath and just stood there.
She stayed put, and after a couple of minutes, she took a few steps forward and very deliberately put her muzzle directly on my stomach. And then she yawned. And yawned. And yawned. For a really long time. When she stopped, I realized that the hard knot in my stomach was gone. I felt light and relaxed.
As I write this, I realize it may sound a bit hippy-like. But that's how it happened. I have never experienced anything like it before, and I felt such a desire to talk to someone about it. Someone who might help me understand the experience.
Bettina Stecher is 47 years old and works as the editorial manager at Malgré Tout. She is educated in marketing, communication, and physical therapy for horses. She owns a 5-year-old Spanish mare.
Bettina trains her horse in horsemanship and a blend of academic and classical dressage. She has a profound interest in biomechanics and is a strong advocate for varied training that motivates, strengthens, and increases the horse's flexibility.
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I decided to share my experience with Ditte Young, who among other things, works with telepathy. She didn't seem surprised at all when I told her about my experience. For Ditte, it's completely natural that horses do such things, and she suggested she could have a session with my horse to hear more about the experience. I said yes, please, and below you can find an excerpt from the conversation between Ditte and my horse.
"Your mum told me that she had a unique experience with you. She explained that she was stressed and felt like she had a knot in her stomach due to busyness. She went out to the paddock to fetch you. You didn't seem particularly interested in her, as you usually are. How come?"
"I can't stand stress. I crave peace and order, structure, and boundaries. So when I feel that my mum is stressed, well, I don't want her. I had noticed for a while that it was escalating, but that day she was so tormented inside."
I'm not the one to take that from her. I'm not the one who should make her feel better by indulging me as her hobby. Even though I am her haven and sanctuary, I like it when it comes from a balanced place.
"Your mum told me that she instead stood next to you that day to see what would happen. After a few minutes, you took a step forward and put your muzzle against her stomach, after which you yawned your heart out for several minutes. When you stopped yawning, your mum's hard knot in her stomach was gone. What happened for you?"
"The moment my mum became curious she was present in the now. She didn't demand anything from me. She WAS just with me. That's an entirely different energy. You humans haven't understood that yet. You start by having a thought. Depending on that thought, some substances are produced in your bodies, which cause your bodies to react, e.g., relax or tense up. This affects your magnetic field in the body and around the body. That's the magnetic field, which you also call energy. When you change thought, you also change energy."
"You humans change energy quite often. We horses can stay in the same energy for a very long time. Things go so damn fast for you humans. The moment my mum changed energy, she resonated with me again."
"Many humans use us horses to feel better in one way or another. But you may not consider that we receive your energy. Then we spend loads of time getting rid of it again. We absorb everything you send out. You know that. When you are stressed, we get stressed. This applies to all energy you send out. Stress is just one of them."
"I put my muzzle to her stomach to show her that I could feel that there was a hard knot right THERE. I stayed put for a long time to show my mum how conscious an action it was. If I had done it for a second, she might not have noticed it or thought it was a coincidence. But I stayed put. Because it wasn't a coincidence."
What I could take home from Ditte's conversation with my horse was something that I had already pondered myself. But communicated in a very pure form without beating around the bush. It has made me consider which energies I pass on to my horse. For better or for worse.
Personally, I will use this knowledge to set a goal to meet my horse in a neutral place, where we can be together without the interference of disruptive energies. It might be a somewhat ambitious goal, but a goal nonetheless.
Ditte Young is an author, public speaker, therapist, and clairvoyant. She has been working with animal communication since 2000. Ditte is trained as a clairvoyant, body- and organic psychotherapist, Cranio Sacral Therapist, and Healer.
